DIFFERENT
I am challenging myself as a new year begins to embrace "different." I want to open my mind to alternative thinking, adopt new habits, and engage with people in unconventional ways. Rather than delving into the origins of our current belief systems, I aim to focus on the how and why of choosing to think differently. If you are interested in jumping on the “different train”, please read on.
Recognizing our biases is crucial in this endeavor. We must acknowledge the presence of biases within ourselves to successfully become unstuck. In these times, it is essential for people to listen to each other, scrutinize their biases, and foster understanding. It will take a commitment on your part to reap the benefits of this more reflective way of thinking. Your previously held truths will be challenged if you engage in this endeavor. I think it is a worthwhile exercise.
In 2024, my commitment to embracing "different" stems from the understanding that information is in constant flux. What we considered true a few years ago may have become obsolete due to evolving knowledge. Accepting this, we should refrain from staunchly defending outdated truths and instead welcome a new reality. Detaching emotionally from our beliefs is key, as being open-minded and altering our beliefs with new evidence demonstrates strength, not weakness.
A vital aspect of my resolution is admitting when I am wrong. Acknowledging our mistakes bypasses ego and can build stronger personal and/or professional relationships. The ability to be vulnerable and admit shortcomings is increasingly recognized in leadership literature as a strength. Being quick to admit mistakes garners forgiveness, fostering a culture of accountability. My leadership experiences have taught me how quickly people will forgive being wronged when you are willing to admit a mistake. The power of saying; “I’m sorry” can diffuse most tense situations in a rather quick manner. The blame will be gone and the quest to find a solution can commence. It is amazing sometimes what two little words can do.
Additionally, I intend to focus on generating new ideas and adopting innovative approaches. Curiosity and creativity are intertwined, and those who cultivate curiosity are more likely to succeed in a constantly changing world. Proactively embracing change rather than reacting to it allows for a happier and more productive life. Reinhold Niebuhr's quote, "Grant me the strength to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference," resonates with my approach. We must be willing to understand the dichotomy of things we can and cannot control. Many times, we tend to spend a great deal of energy on issues beyond our control. Our time would be better spent on finding solutions to issues that we have some control and influence over.
To enhance my "thinking differently" initiative, I suggest a reflective exercise: identify two strong beliefs and list the reasons behind them. Then, research the opposing viewpoint. While this may not alter current beliefs, it fosters objective thinking and a better understanding of differing opinions. This approach strengthens relationships and promotes a more nuanced perspective. I witnessed this approach and its’ success as a high school social studies teacher. Having students attempt to see an issue from an opposing viewpoint increased their ability to think. We are no different than those students. In fact, as we get older, we become less open when our current beliefs come under attack.
I hope you choose to reflect upon your own beliefs and maybe dare to be “different” in the new year!